….TOT 209-Overcoming the Guilt

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TOT 209-Week 209

“OVERCOMING THE GUILT”

(Note: The objective of this weekly blog is to assist the trainers giving training in mediation to strengthen their skills)

It is difficult for a trainer  to overcome the feeling of guilt. It is very common in the beginning stages of career in training.

(a) I could have done better

 (b) I could have prepared better

 (c) I could have been more confident

 (d)  I could have managed my time more efficiently

  (e) I could have given ‘that’ example than ‘this’ example ..

 Many  such thoughts may haunt a trainer and make him/her  feel more and more guilty.

It does not happen  only with those who have not prepared well. Even those who have spent hours and hours in preparation may also fail on the training floor. When  ones  own  Knowledge becomes non available to one  at the right time one  feels more disturbed.

The following steps may help in overcoming such situations:

1. Trainer has to prepare well so that he/she  does  not feel sorry about Lack of preparation.
2. Trainer has to imagine  where all he/she  may go wrong. Make a note of each of the situations where the trainer  sees chances of stumbling down. Make a note as to what trainer  can do to avoid such situation/s.
3. Identify the areas where a trainer  feels less confident and  take help from seniors to overcome these  shortfalls.
4. Trainer should  never hesitate to approach others in the field to find out how they have overcome such hurdles.

For those who have prepared well and yet are unable to make use of that knowledge during the training the following points may be taken note of:-

1. Training needs understanding. One cannot make others understand what he himself has not understood. Where there is surface knowledge but not deep knowledge chances are there that trainer may be lacking in understanding of the concepts not withstanding the fact that trainer has information about what he is speaking about. It is in this context,  it is very essential that trainer has to strive hard to get deeper understanding of the concepts. This helps the trainers in implementing their knowledge at the right place at the right time. Indiscipline in learning the fundamentals  may make a trainer feel very guilty at a later stage of time.
2. What a trainer learns may keep changing. Nevertheless a trainer should neverstop  learning.
3. A trainer needs greater strength to handle the guilt factors. In order to handle guilt one has to acknowledge that there had been some shortfall which could have been avoided. Unless trainer volunteers himself to acknowledge the mistakes he cannot overcome the guilt.

 “Mistakes are meant to be corrected, not to be repeated.”

       Nitin Namdeo- Author and Blogger               

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